An Introvert’s Guide to Making Friends in High School

By Elena

Luckily most teens ten to know a few people going into highschool making it easier to get past the first few months. I did not. I knew my brother, his girlfriend, a childhood friend I’d grown apart from, and a long time friend who wasn’t in the same grade as me. ]On top of my lack of acquaintances, I was, and still am, an introvert.

Although it may have been difficult, I made quite a few friends. Now, I know many of you who may be reading this article are facing a similar situation. Starting a new school can be difficult, especially when you don’t know many people. Lucky for you, I’m here to give you a few tips to help.

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Talk to People

The easiest way to make a friend is to simply try and talk to people. I know it can be daunting, but even a simple smile or introduction could lead to a prosperous friendship.

On my first day of high school, it was a freshman only day. As an introvert, I had trouble starting up conversations. Luckily, there were other people there who were willing to start up a conversation with me, and invite me to sit with them and talk to them. If starting up a conversation is difficult for you, at least try and put yourself in a position where someone might feel comfortable approaching you.

Additionally, try and strike up a conversation with people you sit next to in classes. They’re the people you’re going to be spending high school with, so try to be friendly, and hopefully a friendship may come out of it. It can be hard, but especially on the first day teachers try to facilitate friendships such as these to foster. Teachers are going to require you to talk to the people you sit by, so use that time as a way to make friends.

Join Clubs and Teams

This is definitely something you have to do. Joining some sort of club or team you’re interested in will bring you people with similar interests as you. Put yourself out there, at least a little bit, and you’ll find friends.

You also want to join a club or a team because they give you something from school that isn’t just school work. You’ll think of school in a much more positive light if you also get to do something there which you enjoy.

Some of these may also help you make friends with people who don’t go to your school. For example, I do debate. Thanks to debate, I have friends from other high schools both in my hometown, but also in cities around mine.

This is seriously the biggest tip I can give you. Join a club you enjoy, or a team. The people there will likely become some of your closest friends, and you won’t have to worry about making friends.

Be Confident

If you’re confident (not cocky), people will gravitate towards you more, without you having to do much work. Make yourself seem approachable, even if you don’t necessarily want to approach others. Keep your head held high, and don’t slouch over your phone the entire time.

Even if you aren’t confident, confidence is something that can easily be faked. Use body language to project the type of people you want to be friends with. 

People want to be around people who are kind and confident, so try to exhibit that in whatever interactions you feel comfortable making. You will make friends, and it may take a little bit longer, but don’t beat yourself up for it. You’ll find your group. Trust me, it’s worth the wait.  

Thank you for reading this article, and I really hope this helps you out. If you have any other suggestions to help other introverts entering high school, or have any questions, leave a comment down below, or contact us via the contacts page. If you like this article, leave a like so we know to write more articles about this subject. Check us out on our social media pages for more information and more updates, and also check out our patreon page if you’re interested in more content from us. All of those are linked down below. Thanks so much for reading and keep overachieving, and be sure to check out our collaboration next Monday on team relationships!

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