A Beginner’s Guide to Dealing with Negative Peer Pressure

By Elena and Lily

No matter how old you are, peer pressure will be a constant throughout your life. From when you made your first friends, to the friends you make or keep as an adult, peer pressure will be a constant. There’s many different kinds of pressure your peers will give you; some good, and some bad. Although the bad peer pressure can be easy to give into, there are many good ways to resist negative peer pressure. Read on for some of our tips!

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Know Your Values

When you’re being peer pressured the best way to make sure you don’t get rounded into doing something is to know your values. Staying true to your values is an important indicator on what you view as negative and positive peer pressure. But in order to resist negative peer pressure, you have to understand those values.

Your values can be an integral part on how you see and shape the world around you. Your actions and the people you surround yourself with will be molded by your values, and at the same time they will mold you.

Some people learn their values quickly and cling onto them, but some of us have a harder time deciding what we value. This especially affects highschoolers as we are still all learning and growing. We’re figuring out what we agree with and what we don’t, and while some friends may help push us in a positive direction on that front, others might not.

This unknowingness of self can make peer pressure so much more dangerous  It’s important to define your values if you’re feeling pressured and figure out what is best for you. Think through what is important to you, which values you don’t want to lose sight of.

Of course once you decide you have to stick to it and believe in it despite what others may say. Once you’ve truly figured out your values, you’ll find this much easier and peer pressure less threatening. You’ll start to realize your values are more important than whatever else this negative peer pressure is using to entice you.

No means no

No means no. If someone is pressuring you into doing something you don’t want to do, stand your ground and answer no. Don’t let them try to persuade you or make you think something you don’t wanna do is ok.

Don’t back down from your answers and don’t let yourself sway. Say no, and no means no. If you don’t want to do or try something you don’t have to. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

The same goes for others, don’t peer pressure others when they say no to something.

Avoid Negative Influences

We all know people who just aren’t good influences. You see that they’re affecting someone negatively, or that they’re doing something that conflicts with your values. Just avoid them. Be nice, but make it clear you don’t want to indulge into their negative peer pressure.

Remember, no means no, and you can’t let your values slide. 

Avoid negative influences by surrounding yourself with positive influences instead. Create a network for yourself, and don’t let yourself get into some of the negative peer circles.

Check yourself and check the people around you. If someone is becoming a negative influence, create distance between you and the negative influence. Start hanging out with other people, or try talking to them and make it clear you aren’t ok with negativity.

Stick to your values, and step away from people who try to keep you from them.

To learn more about how to deal with some of the negative influences, you can check out our post on the classmates you’ll have here and some people you have on your team here!

Surround Yourself with Positive People

If you’re feeling negative peer pressure from an individual or a group of individuals, not only is it good to avoid them, but surround yourself with positive people who will push you in the right directions.

It’s a huge step to just get away from the negative people and ideas around you, but to truly move past those thoughts, move on, and be happy if you’re feeling pressured, you need to surround yourself with positive people and positive pressure.

Find people with similar interests who will push you to improve in what you want to. People who will listen to you and respect you always, and people who want you to be YOUR best. Not who they want you to be.

The people around you make up a big part of who you are and how you act. Surround yourself with people doing positive things you know you want to be a part of. And you’ll find yourself much happier and in much better company, away from the negative pressures of before. 

Surround yourself with people who are going to align with your values, or at least won’t ask you to do something in conflict with them. 

Be Confident

When stepping away from negative peer pressure, you have to have confidence. Confident in yourself, confident you can step away, confident you can say no.

This is one of the most important tips we can give you for avoiding negative peer pressure. Be confident in your choices and know what’s best for you.

To read more on how to build confidence, check out our post on confidence here!

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